Can't Buy Me Love

Can't Buy Me Love


I may be 12-24 hours too late, but before you kill yourself on Black Friday, let me share something I saw earlier this month that might help you know what your kids really want.  A few weeks ago, I saw a beautiful scene in Waco, TX.  Yes…Waco.  Celia and I took our daughter and a friend up to see Sara Davis open for Penny & Sparrow at a truly awesome backyard venue, Common Grounds. Most of the crowd was college-aged kids and as these performers sang, they hung on every word.  It was quiet, no chatter between an incredibly social age group during these performances.  This college crowd sang along with lyrics they knew and listened to new songs, soaking up the words they hadn’t heard before.  As I enjoyed these performances with them, I noticed most of these songs weren’t about light or fickle things.  The lyrics ran deep, dealing with true love between a man and a woman, sacrificial love, unfailing love, a father’s love, pure and persistent.  Penny & Sparrow, and Sara, had the full attention of a Friday night college crowd.  The crowd had a craving for the words in their songs.  It was breathtaking to watch.

In the days since, I have thought about those kids.  Most attend Baylor, some traveled up from A & M or UT.  For the most part, these kids have been given much.  I’m guessing, but willing to bet, just about every student has the latest phone, car and clothes to accompany a provided education at a very respectable university.  Just considering the school I attended and the changes made in the last 10 years, I’m a bit overwhelmed at the amenities given to these kids.  Their current workout facility, for example, boasts not only an unbelievable weight room, but an indoor/outdoor pool with a lazy river, retractable roof, indoor track…it’s nice.  Way nicer than what I remember having access to as a student.  They have, really, all they could need or want.  Yet, as I watched them, I saw a desire, a craving for the unconditional love my friends were singing about.

It made me wonder.  Have we chased and provided the best for our kids, but left out the one thing they need most?  I’ve hesitated writing this for a week or two, because I didn’t want to write a condemning blog.  It’s certainly not intended to be.  I just can’t get past sharing what I was fortunate to see that night.  Listen to the Apostle Paul’s explanation of LOVE and note the commitment and lack of conditions:

            “Love is patient and kind.  Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude.

            It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.

            Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”

            (1 Corinthians 13:4-7 NLT)

May I suggest what our kids want in the deepest part of them isn’t in any store.  I think they want you.  They want to see you hug your spouse instead of argue with them or go quiet because your spouse has frustrated you…again.  I think these kids want to see you love them and comment on the beautiful things you see GOD doing in them, in spite of whatever challenges or frustrating circumstances they are currently in.  I think they want your time.  As I consider what I saw earlier this month in Waco and the madness of this season, I want to press into gifts and activities that call for us to be together.  I want to let go of stuff that they’re telling me that want, but will care nothing for in 30-60 days.

Middle Ground